Whether your life is in turmoil or has come to a complete stand still, sometimes you have to just surrender and learn to trust in the Force. Trust is an art, an art that we can learn. But especially in trying circumstances we lose the ability to trust ourselves, others, and the Force. Before you know it you no longer believe things are going to work out. We put so much importance these days in being happy that we forget what life is really about. Even when you work really hard, you might not get what you want. Dealing with disappointment and sadness is part of life. So how can we lean to surrender and learn to trust? We sometimes are told that if we simply let go, and learn to simply be, that things will magically appear. This is the other side of wishful thinking. It has nothing to do with putting your trust in the Force. Having trust in the Force requires patience, and if you are cultivating patience and still not getting any results than you need to realize a few things when you are trying to put your faith and trust in the Force.
1. Realize the Force is inside you.
Your strongest, most powerful connection to people, surroundings, earth and everything else around us that can guide us, is actually within us. So often, when we get caught up in thinking that we need to “trust the Force”, we somehow think some external Force is going to swoop into our lives and make it alright. New car and girlfriend included.
2. We have to let go of what is preventing us from stepping up.
When you’re caught up in the “I just gotta trust the Force” mind-frame, we can focus too much on the practice of “letting go” in the abstract sense of the word. But actually, trusting the Force isn’t just about hoping to be saved. It’s about being practical, about approaching our fears head on and learning what specific limiting beliefs we have that we need to let go of. Too often we hang onto ways we continue to hide, ways that are preventing us from coming to our full potential and hide our true purpose and direction.
3. Realize that sometimes, not getting what you want is a gift.
This may be the best gift you can get. Not getting what you want is a gift when what you wanted was very easy to get, if you still don’t get it, you might not get it…get it?
Okay I’ll give you an example: sometimes we stay in a relationship because we are afraid to be alone , when that partner then leaves us we are shocked and feel in panic, because that was not what we wanted, until we confront our fear of being alone and are no longer afraid of being alone. Hence, we got something much better than what we wanted. Instead of being stressed and anxious inside a relationship, you are coping well on your own.
Not getting what you want can be a sign that you need to work on your own innate abilities, talents and strengths.
4. Everything comes back to one simple realization.
To sum it all up: the best way to trust the Force is to learn to trust yourself. Rather than just indiscriminately repeating the mantra “let go”, get curious about what specifically is preventing you from stepping up. And then let go of that specific thought, belief, assumption or whatever it is. Know that the universe is loving you by serving you, even if that doesn’t please you. Sometimes, not getting what we want is even better.
Trust is basically about Knowledge and Love. The true nature of the Force can be understood through Love. Loving yourself, trusting yourself, learning to love others, trusting others. Studying the Force, trust in the Force. We don’t love what we don’t know, and neither trust what we don’t love
May the Force be with you…