Keep your eye on the ball Jedi | Ways of the Force

padawan_tarren_meditating_on_tython_by_master_weilar_tarren-da8mxebAs Jedi , we do the best we can , we try to excel in the things we do , we study we practice so why then is it so hard to keep our eye on the ball , why do we get lost in drama and politics? I spent some time meditating and then i realised , i am able to meditate , not because that naturally came to me , but , because i focussed on the goal of meditation and the benefits it has brought me since. To have this me time, to recharge. Focus is a pass in all kinds of thinking, including perception, memory, learning, reasoning and decision-making. Most activities are central to everything we do in life, regardless of whether it is academics, work or daily life, focus plays an important role in achieving progress.  It’s very probable without focus, you will be unable to understand or explain why one thing leads to another. So focus is a quality important for selecting, collecting and interpreting the necessary information central to what we do and to what we want to achieve.

How can we train ourselves to Focus better?

Well first of all we have to eliminate the cause of what is distracting us from our goal , understand what distracts us and then devote time  to diminishing the distractor. When you learn this skill you learn to get rid of distractors before you start new tasks , and it does not matter if those tasks are being nice to the neighbour or , starting a new workout schedule. You will see you are better prepared and organized

The next issue is the issue of Social Media , dare to unplug yourself , turn to real life so to say. I am not criticizing social media as i use them as well to stay in touch and express myself but i also believe in balance and being on Social Media 24/7 cannot be good for your focus. It is important to pause from technology and social media. One of the advantages of a pause is focus.

Boundaries are important as well , as is said in the above , distractions like Social media can occur in real life as well , It can be difficult to focus on something when you are around other people or when people distract you with conversation. You will have to be clear about your boundaries and have time by yourself to complete your tasks.

The next and last  tip i can give you is my all time favourite : Create a space for yourself

It is important not only to isolate yourself from people and get rid of  distractors , but also to be comfortable when you are doing something important. A place where you can be undisturbed can be hard to find , but they are there , library , attic , even a pub can do…As i am writing this i am listening to music , i find it soothing and everything but distracting. It relaxes me , and motivates. It helps me focus.

As you can see excellence in anything can be achieved through a mixture of features, Focus , determination, a positive attitude and a lot of hard work. Thank you Reacher for the inspiration 😉 

Art :  by Master-Weilar-Tarren Padawan-Tarren-meditating-on-Tython

 

 

 

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Dogma and the Force | Ways of the Force

yoda readingAs a forever student of the Force and it’s ways i have to wonder sometimes , i have browsed many websites about the Jedi way , and everyone had their own rules , creeds , doctrines , or how a friend of mine referred them to as ..Dogma’s. I was surprised by that , why would someone call the learnings and wisdom and dealing with the ways of the Force a Dogma. I meditated on that and i started re reading all the doctrines , circles , prayers etc. And they all had one thing in common. They kind of tell you, or down right tell you , how to behave. Not a favorite part of the free soul , i appreciate that , and it’s being used by Jedi to put other Jedi down , some even post a doctrine in forum posts to prove how well they know it , missing the point completely by being well , not very humble. But i am not judging right ? Because it’s hard to see Jedi act like twats , i get it.

To progress rapidly in the ways of the Force  , to love the Force , the Force being something that is invented or is it real ? Do you feel the Force , can you move objects with your mind , what is the Force , does it have a Light and a Dark Side? So many questions and even more answers and the dark lurks in every answer that is presented as the truth and can be quickly dismissed as Dogma. Does this truth lie in the many Doctrines , codes and creeds , or is it something we have to connect to on a individual level?

To love the Force above all else means that you embrace the Force for what it is ,it binds everything together , it makes that we are all connected and yet we look for things to drive us apart , int that sense it makes sense that an individual Jedi might perceive the creeds etc as Dogma. But the thing is , i don’t think there is place for Dogma in the teachings of the Force. So the way i deal with it is that i read the creeds , codes etc , try to apply them to my life , keep them in the back of my head , deepen my studies further ( i am now studying the bliss of Natural Law and it’s very enlightening 😉 )  And not throw it in other peoples faces when it fits us.

I think as Jedi we are always a little lost , searching , but most of all joyfull that we can learn as much as we can about the Force , not hindered by limitations , not hindering others, but pushing each other forward , little by little.

 

 

 

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The victim card | Ways of the Force

fell a victim by dj HazeWhen one talks  about playing the victim as if everything seems to happen to  them and they had no hand in the events whatsoever, this is because it’s easier to blame someone else than to accept responsibility for their  own actions. So it’s an easy way out to play the victim card. In general victims, like abuse victims, will be hesitant to play this card because they don’t like what it says about them and how people react to it , they fear being blamed for what happened themselves. It takes a lot of discernment to figure out if someone is a legitimate victim or just playing the victim card that is why i am trying to describe as honestly as i can about this problem which seems to occur in the Jedi community even , people not taking responsibility and blame it all on others or their disabilities and restrictions in life. I know i have been guilty of feeling sorry for myself lately being beaten , rejected and feeling unwanted but there is a difference in feeling sorry for yourself and playing the victim card over and over again.

It’s easier to say “well I was depressed”to explain aloof behaviour  than to own up to the depression and deal with it and fight through it. A lot of people would rather blame others or blame their mental illness than deal with their own issues and the consequences of them. It’s a very unhealthy way of dealing with life’s issues that usually begins at a very young age and becomes a passive (agressive?) survival strategy.

Growing up in a dysfunctional family i can see how tempting it is to play the victim card , i see family members play that card over and over again , they excel at it , as they excel in ignoring my appeals to them to grow up and take responsibility of their own lifes. I try to show empathy as i know that they are stuck in this way of thinking and that it’s hard for them to let go and take control of their lives.  But to be brutally honest , i did not expect to see this in the Jedi community. And it seems to be thriving as well and that worries me.

As Jedi we are geeks that like to save the world , we stand up for the weak and defend the helpless , we move unhindered by what other people think of us , we make videos , write blogs to inspire others , we move freely and work on our disabilities , we face our dragons and demons so we can help others face theirs , we cry , get angry , fall down , feel sorry , whine and we get up again. We are the voice of reason within a very fickle and mentally unstable world. Some create websites , teach others , build an empire of Jedi out to Serve …Servizio, Cura, Rispetto

People with a victim identity are unbecoming as Jedi, they take themselves and their restrictions very seriously , and sometimes i understand that , i want to escape my responsibilities regularly. The things that people with a victim identity tell themselves are rigid and they restrict their growth even more , they don’t reach for the stars and excell , and the dangerous thing is , they blame you if you do. More than once i have been told not to expect others to live up to my Jedi standards and their resentment seeped through their words. It’s never their fault when they fail. But that will never stop me from helping by kicking some ass and telling you to reach for the stars and start taking responsibility for your own life.

 

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Lets talk about sex | Ways of the Force

talksWhen you meet someone online , after a while you like to get to know eachother better, i appreciate that , understand that. But what i did not understand is the need to talk about sex online. Seeing sex as a deeply spiritual experience or a learning experience , it’s something that i would rather talk about in person. If it’s a one night stand , or a deeply life long commitment , sex is a way of expressing your need to be one with someone else, even if that is showing that by exchanging bodyfluids in a bush near school , or after a good drinking binge with your friends.Please understand that i don’t think there is anything wrong with casual sex , that is not the point. The point i guess  is the useless exchange of very intimate details off one’s desires with someone you are probably not going to meet in real life , an internet affaire.

As a believer in the Force , i  can see how you meet someone and fall in love , or , just want sex , even casual , that you both need this and that nothing can stop you. There is nothing wrong with that. I guess i don’t understand why i should have to exchange these things online. Maybe it’s because i don’t understand people getting aroused by that kind of talk , it only has effect on me when you whisper it  in in my ears. Maybe i don’t understand the online generation at all. You know , i am probably just too old loll.

And as a believer in the Force i can see that i had to learn a thing or two about the men online. It took me a long time to figure that one out. Although, i have only been online really for 2 years dabbling in online communities. First , men are hardly ever who they say they are , if they are , cherish them , they are rare. Second , there is the type that will start about sex in the third sentence and there is the type that never will. Third , i learned that if people don’t want to meet me in real life, i am not really that interested in them anymore, i know the distance is often a deal breaker but still , come on , i don’t live on another planet do i , and neither do you. And if it’s really impossible to meet there is always videochat.

And lastly , i have met some really wonderful people online that i love to chat with and that i love as much as my real life friends , they are precious to me.

I realise that the Jedi community is something that is mainly online , but i have noticed, and i don’t want to offend anyone or degrade the experience but that is not really my thing. Having seen people really being damaged by what goes on in online communities , i have concluded and decided to keep some things to myself , or , to put it better , i have decided to share some things only with people , face to face.  And with sex , like so many things in my life , i don’t really like to talk about it that much  😉

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Gossip | Ways of the Force

gossip-pop-art-men“Using the analogy of the human mind as a computer, gossip can be compared to a computer virus. A computer virus is a piece of computer language written in the same language all the other codes are written in, but with a harmful intent.” ~Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements

When you gossip you  casually talk about other people’s  personal affairs and situations.The word gossip in itself already explains that it’s not just talking about someone , but talking about someone with a certain intent, even if you are just sharing things that really happened , it’s the intent you share it with that matters and it can lead to bad mouthing of someone behind their backs, based on false accusations and lies. Usually the second follows the first when the first one does not have the desired effect.

Human conversation can be a powerful tool. It can also be a very destructive weapon. How we decide to talk about others can be productive or very counterproductive. We decide every day how we talk about others , do we give constructive feedback or do we take them down with our words?  How do we say it , what is your intent when you share information about others? The destructive power of gossip is a reality to be dealt with.

Gossip is not innocent , it can ruin a reputation ,destroy friendships, lead to bullying  humiliate and demean, exclude people , make them feel miserable and ruin trust between people and ruin trust in people in general. We can teach ourselves as Jedi to not say anything that you would not say to the person in question , that if we hear slander about ourselves or others to go to the source and confront the person gossipping, ask questions. We can caution others to speak kindly of others and speak of others kindly ourselves.We all have different perceptions about others , and very often we don’t understand what people are about , or why they do certain things. It’s tempting to find allies against someone like that , and it can be very satisfying to badmouth someone , but like many things , its a negative way of dealing with others and the way they are.

Thinking of how you would like others to see you and talk about you always seems to help for me. Treat others how you want to be treated yourself , no ..treat them better!

 

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Free will | Ways of the Force

free will“People demand freedom of speech as a compensation for the freedom of thought which they seldom use.”

― Søren Kierkegaard

 

 

I like to think  Free will is the ability to choose between different possible courses of action.Free will is mainly a state of mind, wishful thinking even.In this society it’s hard to uphold free will as we would like to see it ourselves. I do believe in free thoughts , the power of the mind that can overcome difficulties and things that stand in the way of our bliss. I see free will as a way out of chains of society , as a way of staying on the path that we want to pursue. I also think we have a destiny and the will to follow or discard the path set out for us.

In the Hero’s journey we see that the journey often starts with freeing oneself from the mindset of the surroundings we grow up in , we form our own thoughts and leave the safe haven of being lived and start living ourselves. Our thoughts are Free , but our will has to be very strong and overcome difficulties to be free as well.

There are complications though, free will and free speech are being used in a poor moral concept due to ignorance and lack of empathy. Even though i am a protagonist of free speech and free will , i try as much as i can to consider the effect of my actions and words on other people. But then again , sometimes people need to be shaken up a little don’t they?  It’s important  though not to cross other people’s boundaries , poor moral conduct always lies in ignorance and that is not what free will is about.

In some religious streams Free will is considered the cause of suffering , and is used to explain why God tolerates suffering and misery. But I am more on C.S. Lewis side who says: “Try to exclude the possibility of suffering which the order of nature and the existence of free wills involve, and you find that you have excluded life itself.” Suffering is a part of life and i can see how free will can be the cause of suffering within because you take a risk every time you practice free will.

To me the important point of free will is that it gives me a choice , even a limited choice is a choice , even a bad choice is a choice , even to do nothing is a choice, It can give us a choice between dark and light.  It gives us the responsibility that we need to grow up and become what we are meant to be. It also gives us the choice to do the right thing even against all odds. I truly believe we do have a free will , especially against all odds.

 

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Guardians | Ways of the Force

Rogue-One-Star-Wars-Story-Chirrut-Imwe-KyberThis past May the Fourth my family and I decided to watch Rogue One.  It’s actually one of my favorite Star Wars movies, because for once it focuses on non-Jedi characters.  Yet, amongst the Force-blind, there are guardians. Guardians of the Whills, to be specific.

Their name is only mentioned in passing, but there is a mystique there that struck me once more as I re-watched the movie.  Seeing Chirrut Imwe, the blind Asian character who makes short work of surrounding stormtroopers, inspired me in a way that I couldn’t put my finger on until 10 days later. Having read part of the book Guardians of the Whills, it is made clear that Imwe is no Jedi.  Yet, like the Jedi of real life, he cannot touch the Force, cannot use it as a Jedi would.  He cannot even see.  Yet he strives to feel it, however fleetingly, to be at one with his surroundings and the beings he finds himself amongst.

There is a lesson here that I feel the Jedi Realists and Jediists can learn from.  To be blunt, we are not Jedi. Not in the truest sense of the word. We have no Force powers, can barely draw on it for strength and focus.  However, we hold sacred a knowledge of its existence. We are guardians of this knowledge, passing it on to the next generation whenever possible.

If we are to be honest with ourselves and others, it may be time to admit that, though we strive to feel the Force just as Imwe does, our job as followers of the Force is to maintain its deep history, to preserve its legacy, not necessarily to be keepers of the peace and of justice.  We don’t have lightsabers. We can’t use telekinesis. We can’t see the future. What we can do, however, is be guardians of the Force.  This makes us no less important to the world—in fact it may make us more important—yet if we continue to delude ourselves into thinking we can ever live up to the legends of the Jedi, we will be sorely disappointed.  Perhaps we may even be taken more seriously if we drop the Jedi title.

I can tell you what I believe I am now.  I am no longer a Jedi. I’ve known this for some time, but never had a word to replace it.  I am a Guardian. Should people be inspired by this idea, then I believe we can enter a new age, in which the Jedi can end their futile endeavor to be superheroes, and instead be humble servants of the Force, guarding the knowledge provided us by previous generations of guardians.

I believe that we Jedi have simply been mistaken in the view of our role in this world.  Or perhaps it’s simply a misunderstanding of labels. All I really know is who I am. And when you start to become who you are, the first thing you realize is that there is nothing to fear.

The Force is with me, and I am One with the Force.

—Streen (Guardian of the Whills)

 

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